Pregnant and Stressed

Posted by on May 12, 2012 in Pregnancy, Uncategorized

Before you start reading this I am sorry if it is a bit of a rant…I am stressed and need to offload. What better place to do that than here?

Okay, so I am getting pretty close to 30 weeks now and so far have had had a relatively stress free pregnancy. I have had little sickness and generally been feeling good.

Due to Husbands job, I knew we would be moving this Summer but have been able to stay relaxed as we are moving really close to my parents. Up until yesterday it looked as though it would all work out smoothly.

We were due to be in and settled before baby the baby is due in July…..perfect and just as I wanted it. My parents would be close for when I actually go into labour and would be able to look after the girls. Then afterwards they would be close enough to visit, maybe even help out if needed.

Then Husband comes home and says no its not going to work out like that after all. Not surprisingly  I am stressed!

We are still moving in the Summer but it looks like either I will go ahead first and move in whilst husband continues working here or we move after the baby is born…eitherway, we dont get much choice.

I am not sure what we are going to do.

You see we are a bit isolated where we live, cut off from the other families he works with. Everyone I do know has families of their own, there is no one I could call on in the middle of the night and my parents are 2 1/2 hours away! Worse though would be him missing the birth…and there is noone else I want as a birth partner.

Since he has told me I have been on the brink of breaking down. I have been unable to sleep,I am tearful and emotional, my heart has been racing and I have been experiencing stomach cramping. I think I am getting myself in a state.

I should have known it wasn’t going to work out as perfectly as I hoped!

I know I need to stay calm and concentrate on my family and the baby inside me but I feel sick.

I am ready to  move now and start the next chapter of our lives but instead am being held back. Its frustrating and I have no control over when the move happens. I hate these feelings especially as I am naturally quite a chilled and relaxed person!

Worse still Husband doesn’t really understand why I am so upset.

So heres why I am:

  • I am giving birth in approx 10 weeks but have no idea where we will be living or which Hospital it will happen at
  • I am concerned my Husband will miss the birth if he is here and I am in the new house 21/2 hours away
  • I am worried about what to do with the girls when I go into labour if here
  • I have this overwhelming need to settle before baby is born (nesting?)
  • I want to get the girls settled in the new house before the baby arrives
  • I am also worried about how all of this stress could effect the baby…it might make her really early
So that’s where we are up to. I am pregnant, moving and stressed. I feel out of control and there is nothing I can do about it. I am not happy! Apparently Husband has  a plan and I will know more later but for now this is what I know

Karen x

 

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    oh man I have had the stress of not knowing if he will be there for the birth and not knowing how you will do it. My husband was states away for work, however… and he did make it! somehow it just seemed to me like he had better get home, and it took him two days to get home, and i had baby the next day after that.. can i give some advice though, i think your best bet would be to move, get everything settled, have your parents to take the kids when things start happening , and REMEMBER– baby does not usually come in one hour. contractions and labor starts, and there is a few hour delay before things really start hopping. So your husband should have plenty of time to make it.

    • http://wouldliketobeayummymummy.blogspot.com would like to be ayummy mummy

      Aaahh thank you very much for your comment. You are right it doesn’t usually happen that quickly but it is scary isn’t it? Glad everything worked out for you and fingers crossed it does for me too :-)

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    Oh Karen, this does sound like a horrible position to be in especially when it’s out of your control but do try not to worry, husbands have a habit of pulling it all together & making it work out. S seems to be very much like M so from experience I would let him take the strain & you just concentrate on looking after yourself & keeping that baby where she is. It will work out…and like the previous commenter said, it is probably better to go & be near your parents even if S is still working down there as at least you know that the girls will be looked after.
    x

    • http://wouldliketobeayummymummy.blogspot.com would like to be ayummy mummy

      Thanks sweetie, feeling a bit better as Husband is doing everything he can to get us up there. We will know more within next two weeks. until then I trying my best to relax when I can and just organise a few bits just in case x

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