Okay so this birth was the complete polar opposite to what we had planned. I was thinking scented candles, a birthing pool, midwives trained in essential oils and massage with soft music playing in the background. What really happened though couldn’t be further from this.
On Monday night I took a break from trying to get her out and was instead relaxing on the sofa with my feet up when something funny happened to my tummy. We heard a loud popping sound and then my tummy went from being uncomfortably hard and solid to quite soft. I thought my waters had broken but when I stood up there was no liquid. I felt a bit funny, (the same mild cramps I had been getting for weeks) but could feel her moving so wasn’t worried. I stayed up a little while longer (till 11pm) and thought maybe tonight could be the night. Not strange though as I had been thinking this every night for the past 3 weeks.
I fell asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow and slept through until 12.45 pm when I woke up in pain. I quickly realised I was in labour and decided to run a bath. I was only in it minutes when I realised things were happening quickly…too quickly for my liking. I shouted for Husband who was downstairs, he didn’t come straight away but after another contraction he was there. I told him I thought we needed to ring my Mum. We timed two contractions which were 2 minutes 30 seconds apart and lasting 30 seconds. We quickly called my Mum to come and look after the girls.
I got dressed as quickly and calmly as I could whilst having to keep stopping for contractions, then came downstairs where Husband helped me attach the tens machine. By this time I was in a lot of pain so whacked it up high. I couldn’t tell you if it was any good or not but it was all I had. We called the Birth Unit and told them we were on their way.
Husband made me get in the car so we were ready to leave as soon as my Mum arrived. I had 3 contractions in the car before screaming to my Husband that “we are not going to make it, the baby is coming NOW”!
As we have a brand new car Husband was pretty keen for me to get out of it. With
husband dragging me a lot of help I managed to get out and cross the grass to get to the house. He didn’t quite believe me when I was telling him “I can’t walk any faster, she’s coming”.
It was just as I stepped back through the front door at approximately 1.45 am, my waters broke and my little girl arrived with them. I screamed to husband “she’s in my knickers!”. Where he promptly pulled my trousers down and caught her…..wow, what an entrance to this world!
I have to say my Husband was brilliant, he put her on my tummy, chucked me a towel to cover her in and called 999. Apparently there was blood everywhere and it was pouring out of me. He explained to them what had happened, was very calm considering and told them I was loosing a lot of blood. He followed their instructions and Mum arrived minutes afterwards, promtly followed by the ambulance.
The reason I lost so much blood was because the cord had been ripped from the placenta which I then didn’t go on to deliver. I was still losing blood and shaking terribly when they decided to take me to hospital. We left my Mum with the house looking like a murder scene…honestly it was that bad. Bless her she cleaned it all up whilst waiting for news on how we were. Thank you doesn’t cover it.
I ended up going into theatre to have the placenta removed and all in all lost a litre of blood, only just missing out on the need for a blood transfusion. Whilst in labour with my other girls it was me who thought I was dying, this time round it was apparently Husband who was worried I might be!
Eventually I was reunited with my Husband and baby for a short time before I had to go onto the ward and he had to go home. This was so not the birth we had planned.
I ended up having to stay in hospital until the following day which I was not happy about either but here she is. My beautiful baby girl Daisy Ella:
Welcome to the World gorgeous girl.
Nine days over due but when she decided she was ready, she didn’t hang around.
Okay I am 40 weeks today and desperate to get this little Madam out. I am worried she is going to be huge as both her Sisters were over over 9 pounds.
Now I know that lots of people will say “leave her alone” and “she will come when she is ready”…but I am ready now! I see no reason for her to stay inside just getting bigger and fatter. Husband has two weeks leave now and the longer she stays in, the less time we all have together as a family. Plus Poppy told me she was “bored of waiting” today.
We are all just ready to meet her and move on with our lives. We feel as though we are in limbo.
Anyway I have worked my way through the list of old wives tales including eating spicy food and pineapples, bouncing on the birthing ball, sex, walking, clary sage oil but nothing appears to be working. I have even tried some of the wierd ones like blowing up balloons and climbing the stairs sidewards as well as using the tens machine…. I told you I was desperate.
Well today I got on the trampoline at my parents house and bounced:
The girls thought it was hilarious. I bounced and bounced but all it did was make me need a wee! We will have to watch this space and see if it works.
Fingers crossed I don’t go to far over. I cant wait to post of photo of my new little bundle.
At 39 weeks pregnant I am ready to pop. Apparently I am quite grumpy (although I am trying not to be), I am pretty tired and my bump feels huge…. well to be honest it is. Here is a picture of me today at 39+2:
Sleep is almost impossible with this lump attached to me, my itchiness is back stronger than ever and I have had enough now. I want this baby out.
I have been to visit the local Birth unit where I want it all to happen and it is lovely. There are birthing pools, comfy sofas, beanbags and birth balls with not a bed in sight!! I have my fingers crossed all goes to plan and i can deliver there. All the midwives are trained in essential oils and water births and it seems like a very relaxed friendly place to be. I loved all the little touches like candles, soft lightning, CD player too.
I saw the midwife last week who took my bloods, she rang this week to tell me I am anaemic…whoops not been taking my vitamins since I moved and she wants to repeat the bile liver salts as they came back borderline/ a bit dodgy. I am going to get this all checked on Thursday but to be honest I hope she is here before then.
I have been trying everything to get her out, all the obvious plus walked up a big hill, stairs. eaten spicy food, bounced on birthing ball, got husband to drive over bumps, clary sage oil in bath, husband massages pressure points with the oil too….nothing is working. Last night I had a spicy curry which just resulted in giving me a severe upset tummy today and left me feeling quite sick. Not pleasant and definitely not how I would like to turn up at the unit.
I know she will come when she is ready but I am ready now.
Each week I have posted a picture of how big my baby should be compared to a piece of fruit or veg. Well this week she is the size of a watermelon. I really do look like I have a watermelon shoved up my top too.
According to The Baby Centre UK:
It’s all about watching and waiting now, as your baby could arrive any day. Your baby could be up to 50cm long, and weigh about 3kg. But that’s only an average figure. As soon as your baby is born, your midwife will weigh him, and it’s only then you’ll know for sure how much he weighs.
Your baby is shedding the greasy, white substance (vernix caseosa) which has been protecting his skin. This turns the amniotic fluid, which was once clear, pale and milky. The outer layers of your baby’s skin are also sloughing off as new skin forms underneath.
The hair on your baby’s head may now be thick, and his fingernails extend beyond his fingertips. They may look long when he’s born. Your baby’s skull bones are not yet fused, which allows them to overlap as he passes through the birth canal during labour. This is the reason your baby’s head may look cone-shaped after birth.
So there you have it, she is fully cooked so I see no reason in her not coming now, I know I am impatient but there you go. Its my diary and this is how I feel.
I have been nesting, tidying and cleaning although Husband and the girls mess it up as soon as its done. I have been meaning to prepare and cook some meals but have not got around to doing it yet. Maybe the lack of energy is related to anaemia. I might get around to doing it this week.
I haven’t been blogging as much as usual recently so wanted to give you another little update on what I have been up to and how I am feeling.
At 38 weeks+5 I am now in to the last few weeks of my pregnancy. I am finding it a bit of a struggle with Husband away to be honest. I have no energy and am shattered permanently. I am finding the constant demands of a toddler and a preschooler who finished early to move so tiring, it is non stop.
The girls aren’t really naughty but they constantly want to be doing new activities. So for example they want to play with the play dough, I get it all out and ten minutes later they are bored and wanting to draw or paint, ten minutes later the same thing. It is one thing after another , I am constantly tidying up after them and I don’t really get to rest.
The noise level grates on me too. I just want some peace and quiet and would love to crawl back under the duvet most days but can’t. They are loud and always wanting something. This is all I hear all day:
“Mummy… I need a wee wee”
“Pooh please Mummy”
“I want play dough”
” I want drawing”
“Mummy I want to go out”
“Mummy I want to come in”
“Mummy can we have something to eat please”
“Mummy we need a drink”
“Mummy, Mummy, Mummy”
and me?…… well I just want to scream “aaaaaaahhhhhhh” and of course hide somewhere away from them all.
Now I have read that back, I do sound very tired and grumpy!! I think I am just really ready to have my Husband back home (yeehhh he is back today) and to get this baby out so we can get on with our lives. This weekend I am going to be doing everything I can to help encourage her.
I have already been bouncing on my birthing ball most nights, drinking raspberry leaf tea, drinking pineapple juice (fresh not from concentrate) and walking lots. Will try some of the others when husband gets back.
I have seen the midwife and got all the information on the birthing unit here which looks and sounds gorgeous, my bag is packed and I am ready!
Watch this space and fingers crossed she gets here soon.
I am 38 weeks now and really ready to have this baby! Husband is away until Thursday but after that I am going to be doing everything I can to make her come out! Last weekend a walk around IKEA and a pizza packed with jalapeños brought nothing but tummy cramps but hoping this weekend she’s ready.
I have been fortunate to have a really good pregnancy but I am starting to get worried about what size she might be and the whole birth thing. I am also getting uncomfortable and getting lots of pains and twinges. Its a bit scary having Husband so far away this week but he assures me his phone is attached to him night and day and he is ready to speed up here as soon as I call.
Its not surprising I am feeling uncomfortable. My baby is now around the size of a pumpkin…there is no getting away from it that a pumpkin is pretty big:
Evenings are the worst but I have found both rocking and bouncing on my birthing ball helps. My skin has been a bit itchy again this week and I have been having lots of warm baths with Clary sage oil to help relax and sooth it.
The girls are being really sweet about the baby and really seem to understand whats happening. Rosie keeps telling me the baby is going to sit next to Poppy in the car and which room is hers. They both keep telling me she will come out soon, although they seem to think my tummy is going to just pop which is a bit funny.
The baby centre UK says:
Your baby is now ready to greet the world. At this stage, your baby is still building a layer of fat to help her control her body temperature after she’s born. All your baby’s organs are well developed, though her lungs will be the last to reach full maturity.
From this week onwards, the amount of amniotic fluid in your uterus gradually starts to decrease, although your body will continue to make fluid until your baby’s born.
I am still eating lots of salt and vinegar snack a jacks and ice cubes. I am getting through around 12kg of ice cubes a week at the moment! The crunching is very satisfactory as well as refreshing. I am finding I have been getting a bit of indigestion though this week and there is not as much room for a full meal. I am tending to eat much smaller amounts than usual.
Overall I am doing ok but am ready to meet my little girl. I feel like the whole family are ready for her now and we just want her here.
Watch this space!
Due to moving house, Brit Mums and a Butlins break I missed writing last weeks diary and this one is a little late.
I am now feeling huge, uncomfortable and I want her out!!
I know some people will say the longer she stays in the better but I know differently. You see both my girls were huge at 9.5 pounds at 2 weeks late and 1 week late so I am guessing this one will be around the same at her due date. I am terrified of giving birth again to another big baby so another reason to get her out now. Husband is currently working back in Dartmouth but is home for the weekend so have my fingers crossed it will happen then.
I am going to be working my way through the old wives tales (except caster oil…yuckkk) and will let you know if it works. I don’t really think it will and everyone keeps commenting on how high I am carrying her but still it would be nice.
Apart from feeling tired, having back ache, feeling big and uncomfortable I am also eating more ice cubes than ever. I have started to buy them in 2 kg bags and they last around 24 hours each – that’s a lot of ice cubes. Luckily when we were away this weekend, the staff at Butlins barely blinked when I asked for a large glass of them. I just cant stop crunching them…them and salt and vinegar snack a jacks.yummy!
Its not surprising I feel uncomfortable, this week she is the size of a winter melon:
The BabyCentreUK says:
Your baby weighs close to 2.8kg and may be about 48.6cm long from head to toe. Your baby’s head is now cradled in your pelvic cavity – surrounded and protected by your pelvic bones. This position clears some much-needed space for her growing legs and buttocks.
Many babies now have a full head of hair, with locks up to 3.5cm long. And then, of course, some babies don’t have any hair at all. Speaking of hair, most of the downy coat of lanugo that covered your baby from 26 weeks has disappeared, and so has most of the vernix caseosa, the protective whitish substance that also covered her. Your baby will swallow her lanugo and exterior coating, along with other secretions, and store them in her bowels. These will become her first poo, a blackish waste called meconium.
Her Nursery is almost ready, just needs the finishing touches. We may well have to buy a new pram as the old one seemed a bit wobbly this weekend. You never know, I might get my Stokke afteralll!
So all in all not feeling great but oh I almost forgot, I am sleeping better than I have in a while. Im not sure why that is but I am making the most of it.