Right now I feel sick, really sick and like the worst Mummy In the World.
Someone has been hurting Rosie at Preschool. I've only just found out but it's been going on for a few weeks. She never told me….I didn't ask.
Since half term, I've noticed Rosie's behaviour has changed dramatically. However, she has also been really unwell since around that time so I just related it to that and wasn't too surprised. She doesn't cope well with being poorly and is always difficult when she is. The past few weeks have been particularly bad with all three girls having slapped cheek syndrome followed by another horrible flu like virus and a sickness bug.
Generally she has been miserable and whiny, just wanting to be cuddled all the time and when I can't sit there holding her, she cries. In fact shes been crying hysterically at the slightest thing and not just a little either. She's woken screaming in the night from bad dreams or with tummy ache (she always does when poorly). She has also been playing up/ being naughty. She's drawn on everything from furniture, herself & Poppy's School uniform. She has been pushing Daisy over and hitting both Sisters on the head. She hasn't been very nice at all and to be honest I haven't had much patience with her. I've found it all draining and exhausting, putting it down to her feeling unwell. Note to myself – never assume anything!
I never once thought it had anything to do with preschool as she loves it there. The teachers think she is lovely, she's made some really nice friends and everyday she asks if she can stay all day.
Last night though it all came out. All the girls were in the bath quite happily playing as usual and talking about their school plays. Rosie then asked “Mummy, if someone pokes me in the tummy like this (and prodded herself hard) during the play should I tell a Teacher?” I told her she should and asked who had done it. She told me the girls name and then it all poured out.
Apparently they do it when no one else is watching. A pinch on the hand or arm, a scratch or prod in the tummy or side and if they're feeling really brave, a quick hit on the head. Rosie has tried telling her she doesn't like it but the girl doesn't listen.
I've spoken to her Teacher today and they are going to talk to the girls Mum. Apparently she did it at the start of term to someone else but it stopped once the parents had been told. It's started again though now she's found new people to target. I'm the second parent to complain this week and Rosie tells me she's done it to her best friend too.
Already Rosie seems happier knowing it's out in the open. Let's hope it stops now and she goes back to being her normal, cheeky but sweet natured self. In the meantime I'm being much more tolerant and talking to my little girl about everything. Will keep you posted.
It's all starting to make sense now. My tired, grisly girls are not just missing their Daddy, they've been poorly.
Poor little Rosie in particular has been out of sorts for a few weeks now. Just before half term she had a horrible cough and then was miserable all over the holiday but it didn't turn into much else. Since then she has picked up a bit but has been emotionl, tearful and grumpy as have her Sisters, especially Poppy who has been super sensitive. Rosie has also complained of random aches and pains like leg pains and headaches and been falling over left, right and centre. In between she is her normal, happy self.
On Friday afternoon she came home from Preschool with rosy, red cheeks. It was worse on one side and looked as though she had bumped into something. As the day went on it got worse and by the evening her cheeks were burning. At about 4.30pm she complained of a sore neck and when I looked it was really swollen on the left side. I phoned the Doctors immediately and they were fantastic.
She was diagnosed with Slapped Cheek Syndrome, something I had never heard of before. An apparently common (but not serious) viral infection which can affect anyone at any time in their life but more often than not children aged 3 to 15, particularly during the winter months.
It is highly contagious and spreads in much the same way as colds or flu do, through coughs and sneezes. Poppy has it now (you can see the red cheeks in the photo below) and Daisy is showing signs too. Slapped Cheek can last for anything from a few days to a few weeks but by the time the cheeks are sore, the virus is already be passing out of the body.
The condition is sometimes referred to as ‘fifth disease’, and the virus which causes it (parovirus B19) affects between 50 and 80 per cent of all adults. Unless you have another condition, such as pregnancy (the infection can increase the risk of a miscarriage because the virus can cause severe anaemia in the unborn child) or the blood disorder sickle cell anaemia, treatment isn’t always necessary. We've been advised to just use children's paracetamol and ibuprofen.
Lets hope they feel better soon. At least I know they won't get it again. Once you've had the virus, your immune system develops its own defence meaning you can't catch it again….phew!!!
For now it's lots of rest and cuddles so if you don't hear from me for a few days this is why.
Oh my goodness! Today I witnessed Daisy behaving in a way that my elder two never did and boy was it embassassing.
Up until now I thought Daisy was an easy, happy baby who loves other people and children. I had noticed a stubborn/ independent side to her personality (likes to try to do things by herself) and couldn't fail to pick up on the jealousy she experiences when her Sisters get more attention than her (She pushes them out of the way saying “my mum” or bopping them on the head). She definitely doesn't like the word no and cries when you say it…..but I had never before seen behaviour like today.
You see today was the day I took Daisy to her first Tumble Tots session. She had been watching big Sister Rosie go for a while but today it was all about her. She was really excited when she saw the apparatus and couldn't wait to get started but unfortunately she just didn't get waiting get her turn or going around the circuit in one direction. Then when I said “No” or held her back it was the end of the World.
She actually threw herself on the floor kicking her legs, back arching, whilst crying. I wouldn't say she was screaming but she was definitely crying. She was easily distracted eg by the slide but then would start over again when I wouldn't let her walk back up it the wrong way.
I was so embarrassed and didn't really know how to deal with it. The staff had always seen this sweet easy going baby who would fall asleep on me or lie on a mat in the corner fast asleep. Now that cutie was behaving like a little monster. Luckily they were fab. But oh dear! I think I'm going to have my hands full with this one. I can honestly say her Sisters never did this.
We are going to keep going though as I think it will be good for her to learn turn taking and waiting. In the mean time I'm going to have to think of strategies to deal with it. All ideas welcome.
Children, like adults have good days and bad days and their moods go up and down. As a parent my way of dealing with these moods is to listen if they want to talk, give them some space if they don't want but above all be flexible.
Today was one of those days. Both my big girls were tired and grumpy.
Poppy had been on a School trip to her School's outdoors classroom. She had enjoyed a lovely day but being out in the fresh air all day had worn her out. She had fed horses, swung on a tyre and been on a really long walk as well as scooting to school and back. Rosie had cycled to school and back twice and hadn't napped.
Poppy's legs ached, she was exhausted, tired and miserable. I tried all my usual tricks to make her smile but she was going down hill quickly and getting tearful at the dinner table. Rosie was just irritable. Now usually I would chuck them both out in the garden for some fresh air until bath time to perk them up but that wasn't what Poppy needed this evening.
Instead I took Poppy for a shower and washed her hair, helped her get into a nightie and wrapped her in a cosy dressing gown. I then did the same for Rosie before making them a bed on the sofa with some warm milk and biscuits. At this point it was ridiculously early, only 5.30pm. We put Cars 2 on and snuggled up under a soft fleecy blanket whilst Daddy sorted Daisy out:
They never made it to the end as they were too tired but it cheered them up. Then at 6.30pm they wanted to go up for stories and bed, half hour earlier than usual. Not quite our usual evening but tears avoided and two calmer, happier children.
Even in this very routined house there's always room for some flexability and there's definitley, always time for cuddles.
With Poppy at School (in year 1 now) and Rosie at Preschool 15 hours a week, I've actually been able to enjoy some quality time with my baby girl.
Poor Daisy has always had to share me and although she loves her Sisters, she seems to be quite enjoying having me to herself sometimes. Without the distraction of the older two I've been able to give her real some quality time which has been lovely for us both.
Daisy's two favourite things are being outside and the swings so today we played outside for ages. She was giggling and smiling, playing and exploring and she loved it. I couldn't resist taking a few photos:
Daisy has her own distinct little personality but I can see bits of both her Sisters in her too. She looks very like Poppy did at this age but has Rosie's cheeky nature. She is much more confident then either of them were at this age and probably more determined too.
She likes to climb and loves music, happily clapping along whenever she hears it. She's a very happy, giggly girl who's very affectionate. She loves cuddles and kisses and often just rests her head on mine (very sweet).
I'm always trying to divide my time equally between the three of them which isn't always easy. So time with either of them alone is special. However, despite enjoying this quiet time together Daisy and I are both very happy to get to school and pick up the girls ready for life to get noisy and chaotic all over again
When I was pregnant with Poppy, like many I signed up to Babycentre Uk. I loved the little updates each week whilst pregnant and liked the little monthly updates once she was born too. It was helpful to see she was doing roughly what should be.
When I became pregnant again with Rosie and then Daisy I added them to my profile too. Each month I receive updates on what they should be doing, tips for play ideas and ways to encourage development.
This month I received Rosie's update for three years and four months and here's one of the tips:
Pssst … want to get your preschooler's attention? Try talking to her in a whisper. You'd think speaking louder would be the way to do it, but shouting can frighten a child or, if heard too often, simply be ignored. A whisper, on the other hand, is irresistibly intriguing to a little one. Your child can't help but lean in closer to hear the special words Mum is about to deliver. Preschoolers are also attracted to words like secret, special and magical, all of which suggest that something wonderful or exciting is about to happen.
Intrigued I decide to try it out straight away. I whispered “Rosie” and instead of being ignored like usual she whispered back “yes Mummy?”. I whispered back “come here” and do you know what?….she did, straight away. I was amazed.
I'm definitely going to try this one out again. I never wanted to be one of those parents that shouts all the time and I honestly wasn't with two children. But three is much more chaotic and I have noticed I do shout more often. Not anymore though. I'm going to try whispering first.